Dinosaur Train

Admitedly I'm a huge fan of PBS, and it doesn't hurt that I have two boys age almost 3 and 5 who adore trains and dinosaurs....but when I happened upon this series what hit me as the mom of a multicultural family was the way the pteranodon family has an adopted child (a t-rex) and how it's handled. Love it! Click on the link and go to the dinosaur train theme song (you have to scroll down with the arrow at the bottom left on the page)....it'll give you a little taste:

Dinosaur Train

Every family is different about how they approach adoption, we as a family are most comfortable simply focusing on the fact that we are a family and having fun incorporating many cultures into our family with an emphasis on Latino culture, and Nepali culture. It's just part of our everyday life. That being said, we don't read a bunch of adoption themed books, but I do try to incorporate books that have themes about it's ok to be different and there are many kinds of families and about the different cultures and places in the world.

We talk about birthmoms from time to time and our youngest son has talked a couple of times on the phone to his birthmom (not a meaningful conversation as they don't speak the same language yet - but meaningful in that it is a way to explain to him who his birthmother is). We talk about having different features and how some of our features are different because we come from different places....but we don't make a big deal about it. Really at this stage our 5 year old (bio) son has the most questions about adoption and what it means.

I'm not good about finding play groups with other families with adopted children from Nepal and Guatemala - mainly because I don't have time to even think about a play group right now, but we are lucky in that our daycare/preschool is reasonably multicultural and there are at least 4 other families at our daycare with children who have been adopted internationally. But I have fallen short of my goal of seeking out friends and socializing with families from other cultures. I hope I can do better as our kids get older because although now they are seen as a child from a multicultural family, when they are older they will be seen primarily as a Latino or a Nepali person and it is important that they are comfortable with what that means in our society.

Happy New Year

It's a new year and so much has changed yet so much is the same. One year ago we were a family of 4, relatively settled in our comfortable life. We were so excited because Nepal had just opened it's doors to accepting dossiers from families hoping to adopt a nepali orphan. Our life was good, we were incredibly blessed with two boys ages 2 and 4, yet something was missing, and now one year later that missing piece has been found. One small girl from Nepal joined our family and although adding a family member shook up the balance a little in our lives, we are so happy she joined our family.

The journey over this past year was stressful to say the least. There is so much uncertainty in so many things involved in the process of international adoption. Add to that a completely new program of adoption hoping to abolish the episodes of corruption that tainted the prior program and led to its closure in 2007. Finally mix in a country who's government is in flux, trying to establish itself after the monarchy was abolished. There were so many moments I felt that there was no hope, felt powerless to do anything truly effective to get our daughter home. It was hard to bear.....very hard. Although I won't forget the anxiety that at times consumed my thoughts, the edges are now softer, worn down by the giggles and hugs I get daily from our 20 month old daughter.

I wish I had words of wisdom to ease the pain of those who are still waiting. It is so hard to bear the uncertainty of not knowing if you'll ever be able to be the parent of a child that so needs a family. I do wish that somehow that the families that are waiting somehow find a little peace. I do wish the Ministry and all others involved would get their act together, and just get the children into homes. Our daughter was so shut down when we met her at her orphanage, now she is a vibrant, bright-eyed toddler, excited to explore her world. I wish the same for the other children waiting.